Thursday, May 10, 2007

Sowing the seeds



"When people spend more time planning the wedding than planning their marriage, it is no surprise when the marriage fails because no one bothered to plan for it....

"When people spend more time investing and trying to obtain what it is they do not have than investing in what they already have, it is no surprise that a marriage goes bankrupt because nothing was invested in it. "

Paul Catalanotto, from his latest blog entry, "It Is No Surprise ..."


Hat tip: Dawn Eden


2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Well I am planning my daughter's wedding and she is too busy w/ grad school and wanting to finally be married after dating six or seven years (most of it long-distance) that she said if I wasn't helping her with many of the details, she'd get married on a street corner with a Twinkies for the cake.

Yes, as the divorce rate goes up (over 50% in the U.S.) and families are separated, it is quite interesting the energy and expense that goes into making over-the-top weddings as though they are putting everything into a myth rather than into the reality of what it takes to make and build a long-lasting relationship.

Marriage is not about fantasy. It is about compromise, work and a bunch of other stuff.

sunnyday said...

"Marriage is not about fantasy. It is about compromise, work and a bunch of other stuff."

This part is somewhat forgotten when one is lost in the details of wedding-planning, especially when not enough thought was placed in the decision-making process (to marry or not, to marry now or not yet, etc.). Fortunately, we have a lot of pre-Cana seminars here and other marriage preparation programs where couples are made to see what being a husband/wife and being a parent really mean. =)

Best wishes on your daughter's Big Day!

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