Let's cut to the chaste

I've blogged about Dawn Eden's book -- The Thrill of the Chaste: Finding Fulfillment While Keeping Your Clothes On -- several times before. Launched in early December, the book has had the author going on book tours and signings and giving radio and magazine interviews the past month.

Here's an excerpt of an interesting review, part of which Dawn posted on her blog --

Pia de Solenni, a moral theologian who was awarded the Pontifical Prize of the Academies by Pope John Paul II, today reviews The Thrill of the Chaste in the American Spectator online.

Following is the bulk of the review; I've left out some juicy bits in the hope that you'll read the whole thing on the Spectator's site:

SEX USED TO HAVE SOMETHING to do with marriage. That was then, this is now. Now, sex happens in more ways and places than perhaps ever before; but people don't seem much happier for it. Consider the fact that sex is everywhere, men and women claim to be looking for love and commitment, and the singles industry is booming; but the marriage rate doesn't appear to be keeping pace and people seem to spend much more of their lives being single. In such a light, the sexual revolution appears to have been more limiting than liberating. ...

... Extremely honest and forthright, Eden details her decision to pursue chastity as a way of ultimately being happy, whether or not she ever meets Mr. Right. Fortunately, her writing style lacks the saccharine drama commonly found in inspirational books. Rather than condemn a particular lifestyle for pages on end, she helps the reader to understand the lifestyle. Whether one is on the outside looking in or completely immersed, Eden provides a framework that helps explain the choices that so many people assume are "natural."

But it would be a mistake to think Eden simply attempts to make the case for a return to traditional sexual mores. She identifies a condition that generally has been reserved for discussion in the academic circles of philosophers and psychologists.

EXAMINING THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN the lifestyle choices of sex (mostly casual) outside of marriage and the decision to wait until sex can be fully experienced within marriage, Eden identifies two types of women: single women and singular women. ...

... The single woman is excessively utilitarian, and auto-determining; she defines her relationships, her circumstances, and her future, according to her desires. The "other" only comes into the picture insofar as that person is useful to her. She spends her time resenting what she does not have, especially the lack of an intimate relationship, even though she bases her identity on that very lack. Her identity is about what she hasn't got (a boyfriend or a husband), not who she is.

A singular woman acts integrally. She chooses to do things because they are good in and of themselves, not because they will serve her immediate interests whether they involve dating and romance, getting a job, or any other desire. She allows herself to actually experience what a situation offers, even if she didn't foresee it. Unlike the single woman, she will go to a party simply to have fun and be with people she enjoys. If she meets someone at the party, it will be all the better. But whether or not she meets someone won't determine the success of the party.

Eden also identifies gratitude as the distinguishing factor between the singular woman and the single woman. In stark opposition to the single woman's focus on her lack of a partner or mate, the singular woman expresses gratitude not only for what she has and is given, but for what she can give. ...


Read the rest at The Dawn Patrol

Fully booked

A couple of weeks ago I posted about the coming release of "The Thrill of the Chaste," Dawn Eden's book to be out in December. Radiant recently interviewed the author. An excerpt:

There is, as far as I can see, no book for women who are where I was and want to get to where I am. Other books about chastity are generally directed toward virgins, telling them to "stay pure." When the authors of those books address non-virgins, if at all, they're usually writing from the perspective of one who really doesn't know what it's like to change from one lifestyle to another. I've been there, so I thought I would have something new and valuable to say.

The main theme of your book is chastity. Can you describe what that word means to you/represents for you?
Chastity is a state of mind. It entails viewing other people as valuable, even delightful, in themselves, not as means to one's own pleasure or gain. For a single woman, chastity means a refusal to objectify others or allow one's self to be objectified. In the plainest sense, it means reserving the gift of one's sexual expression for one's husband, because only within marriage—with its complete commitment—can it become a gift of love, free from the confines of self-interest.

How do you hope this book will help women today?
For women who want to be married and feel caught on a merry-go-round of dead-end relationships, and for women who seek emotional intimacy and find themselves settling unhappily for sexual intimacy, I hope it will help them build the emotional foundation they need if they're to hold out for their heart's desire.

'Chastity with Ray-bans on'

Due to be out in bookstores in December yet, Dawn Eden's book is seeing movement already through Amazon.com. I mentioned The Thrill of the Chaste: Finding fullfilment while keeping your clothes on here several months ago (go here if you missed it).

The author will be busy promoting her book, as talks, appearances and book signings are already lined up.

Check out two interesting reviews at The Dawn Patrol by two writers who received their advance copies.

Has it Dawned on you?

You've probably come across The Dawn Patrol by now if you've been roaming the blogosphere for quite a while. Dawn Eden is one blog queen to visit regularly, and now she's got a book worth checking out. She's no neophyte to the publishing world, though, having been a rock journalist for years even before "surfing" began to refer to the Web. Now she's an editor at a New York daily.

Her book, The Thrill of the Chaste: Finding fullfillment while keeping your clothes on, will be released in a few months. From its editorial review:

Among inspirational books for single women, The Thrill of the Chaste is a pair of hip Ray-Bans in a field of rose-colored glasses. This isn't a book for dainty damsels in lacy white dresses patiently awaiting their handsome prince. This is for real women who need strong, motivational, and deeply moral messages to counter the ones they receive from a superficial, sex-obsessed world.